The Bridal Shop

Marriage in the 21st century is not what it used to be

There’s a bridal shop opposite my office. Every morning on my way into work I can’t help but glance across at the display of beautiful white full-skirted gowns and long a little to one day wear one on my own wedding day.

I know many women who have married for love. The grand illusion that happily ever after begins with that white gown has been cemented into the consciousness of every young girl who has ever spent a happy childhood reading fairy tales or watching Walt Disney’s Cinderella, Snow White or the Little Mermaid.

Marriage in the 21st century is not what it used to be. Before feminism made a home in Africa and the advent of industrialisation, marriage could have been interpreted as acquiring labour. Traditionally it is women and children who worked the fields. The purpose of marriage therefore was to ensure the material security of a woman, and through her ability to bear children that of her family. The bonds formed during a marriage ceremony obligated her husband to contribute towards the welfare of his bride’s family. Women were and still are conditioned to view marriage through this lens, that of self-sacrifice to meet your obligations to support the survival or your family through production by yourself and the children you bear.

In an industrialised world children are no longer necessary for labour, in fact they have become a liability, and the ability to bear them in great numbers is no longer as prized. As our economies have evolved, so have our social structures. Marriage moved to being about financial protection as women could not work and earn enough to support a family. So still they were married for security as well as for their families to establish a connection with well to do families.

Now, sisters are doing it for themselves. Increasing numbers of women are delaying marriage and their first child in favour of leading an independent life. As for obligation and sacrifice, those were necessary to keep your husband and financial protector happy, if you make you own money and the world is civilised enough not to try and drag you into a cave every so often, you can do without them.

So where does that leave marriage?

who's not afraid of being alone for good?

Sooooo after the one and only mst paper i took that day, me, amdg and yolk bused to City Plaza to shop once again! :') We thought the prices were reasonable better to shop there than to shop at Bugis Street :D hmm but sadly i didn't get to buy a lot 'cos apparently the top i wanted was out of stock. Left with the other gray colour which wasn't really what i want (though i don't mind that too..) URGH i need to stop spending so much on shopping i want to get an iphone/bb and i want iMac!!!!! Our desktop at home suck!! Sometimes it won't turn on?!?! -.- Oh anyway, we ended up eating soooo much!! :D We had Arnold's hahahhahahaha it was damn gooooooood (y) I've got to agree it's better than KFC's! Speaking of which, i'm so craving for it :( We walked around but i wasn't feeling very well didn't have enough sleep the night before was mugging!! HAHAHHAA rightttt. So we ended up at Singapore Post eating again a few hours later!!! We had waffles at the Waffle Factory best waffles ever love the idea of mini waffles (y) Small but don't belittle it okay it was damn filling!! Even monster kayywhyy thinks soooo!!! Afterwhich me and amdg headed to thread our brows so happy with my brows after threading!!!!!! It really really ain't as scary as i thought to be i'm so proud of myself \m/ All in all, i've had fun! I'm so glad i always have them with me to celebrate the joy of post exams~~ Thank you girls<3 So a few days after, it was my Malaysia trip with mom and my relatives! :D I was damn excited when they first agreed on going like 14 people promised they will be able to make it!! And i thought we were going there by car! But who knows, everyone backed out in the end. So only me my mom and two other aunts were able to go and sadly, we headed to Malaysia by bus! I was very disappointed at first because i thought the trip wouldn't be fun without my cousins and sister :( BUT IT DID TURN OUT TO BE THE MOST HAPPENING AND AWESOME TRIP TO MALACCA!!! My mom really pampered me hehe as though i am the only child ^^ I got anything i want there hahahahha awesome right? Anywayz, I met my cousin's wife from Vietnam and i helped to pick out the nicer wedding photos for them at a bridal shop!! First time i got to step into a bridal shop! Urgh wish i could try on all the pretty gown in the bridal ship!!! WAAAA ALL FRIGGIN PWETTY!!!

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